Study: Sexually Active Now, Failed Marriage Later

New research shows that sleeping around while single could ruin your chances of having a happy, fulfilling marriage later.   Dr. Joe McIlhaney of the Medical Institute for Sexual Health in Austin on CBN

Research using brain scans now shows powerful chemicals are released during sex that should create a powerful, everlasting bond. 
“When women are skin-to-skin with a man, their brain secretes oxytocin that causes them to bond emotionally to that man. Men secrete a hormone called vasopressin when they’re having that kind of intimate behavior. And that hormone has even been called ‘monogamy hormone’ for men. And it bonds them to the woman,” McIlhaney explained. 

This oxytocin is so overwhelming in a woman’s brain that just a 20-second hug can cause a female to become bonded to a male. 

Both sexes get addictive doses of the pleasure-chemical dopamine as well during intimate behavior. That works out well for couples out to create lifelong marriages and stable families. 

“They’re addicted to sex, and babies result from that. They’re bonded to each other,” McIlhaney said. 

But that bonding, which acts like adhesive tape or Velcro, is weakened when people tear away at its power by breaking off with a sexual partner and moving on from one to another to another. So when it does finally come time to bond permanently with a spouse, the ability to bond is damaged. 

“The brain actually gets molded to not accept that deep emotional level that’s so important for marriage,” McIlhaney told CBN News. 

One huge result for the permissive is that, as McIlhaney explained, “When they do marry, they’re more likely to have a divorce than people who were virgins when they got married.” 

Across much of the American culture, this big scientific news isn’t known and certainly isn’t much communicated to youth, who these days live in a sexual Wild West. 

Teen evangelist Jeffrey Dean administers Web sites viewed by more than 350,000 young people every year. Thousands of them tell him they’re pressured to be sexual and are often wounded by it. 

“Anything goes is the new rule, and in the process, kids are experimenting,” Dean told CBN News. “But they’re finding out there is great hurt and baggage along with that.” 

Dean said he hears all the time from kids who’ve started having sex way too young about the effect these bonding chemicals in the brain have. They often write to him and tell him of the problems they are having. 

“Well, this relationship didn’t work, but I’m so emotionally attached to what happened there,” Dean explains about the notes he receives. “I’m looking for that again, even if that means making choices I don’t want to make or that I know are against God’s will for my life.” 

The article goes on to say that sexually active teens are up to 7 times more likely to kill themselves. The sexual promiscuity among our youth has also caused their rate of STD infection to jump from 1 in 50 in the 1960s to 1 in 4 today. 

Read all of this amazing article here.



Filed under Marriage, Pornography, Teen Sexuality

7 responses to “Study: Sexually Active Now, Failed Marriage Later

  1. Thanks for putting this up! With the promiscuity we see today and the attitude of “as long as you’re being safe” (protected sex) it’s all okay, this is an important issue. Teens especially exhibit weakness dealing with the dynamics of altering relationship bonds in their life and this is an age when sexual activity has become rampant. It clearly affects their relationships later on. Compare this to our older generations who generally didn’t engage in such behavior in their youth. I see definite relationship differences with respect to commitment, ability to cope with struggle, selfishness, being able to work together as team, etc.

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  4. So basically, it is better for girls and boys marry in their teens.

    • So basically, it’s better for girls and boys to learn some self control and keep their pants zipped up until they are ready to take on the responsibility of a sexual relationship. But in contrast to this, our society and many of our government-supported youth-help organizations actually encourage young people to engage in sex before they are ready.

      I know it’s hard for some people to understand this, but there was a time when most people did not engage in sex as a teenager. I think our society would be a lot better off if people developed the kind of self-control it takes to refrain from elicit sex. Do you disagree?

      • My point was this.

        If boys and girls married in their teens, they would have almost no time to screw around.

        And there was a time when most people WERE getting married as teenagers.

      • In our society it is pretty impossible for a teenager to be ready to enter into marriage. It was possible in the past, especially when the average lifespan was sometimes in the 30s. Now, preparing to support a family involves a whole lot of schooling and/or vocational training. And even beyond that, our society is pushing couples to remain childless until they have some financial security, usually in their mid 30s. It’s obvious that raising good children is not such a priority anymore.

        I’m not sure where you’re going with this. If you are suggesting people should get married in their teens, I’m not sure I agree with you. Personal development, especially for women, would be very limited in that case. Schooling and “finding oneself” is very important. I personally feel a young man or woman should start looking for a marriage partner is their verylate teens and shoot to get married around 25. But of course, that is my opinion.

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