New research shows that sleeping around while single could ruin your chances of having a happy, fulfilling marriage later. Dr. Joe McIlhaney of the Medical Institute for Sexual Health in Austin on CBN:
Research using brain scans now shows powerful chemicals are released during sex that should create a powerful, everlasting bond.
“When women are skin-to-skin with a man, their brain secretes oxytocin that causes them to bond emotionally to that man. Men secrete a hormone called vasopressin when they’re having that kind of intimate behavior. And that hormone has even been called ‘monogamy hormone’ for men. And it bonds them to the woman,” McIlhaney explained.
This oxytocin is so overwhelming in a woman’s brain that just a 20-second hug can cause a female to become bonded to a male.
Both sexes get addictive doses of the pleasure-chemical dopamine as well during intimate behavior. That works out well for couples out to create lifelong marriages and stable families.
“They’re addicted to sex, and babies result from that. They’re bonded to each other,” McIlhaney said.
But that bonding, which acts like adhesive tape or Velcro, is weakened when people tear away at its power by breaking off with a sexual partner and moving on from one to another to another. So when it does finally come time to bond permanently with a spouse, the ability to bond is damaged.
“The brain actually gets molded to not accept that deep emotional level that’s so important for marriage,” McIlhaney told CBN News.
One huge result for the permissive is that, as McIlhaney explained, “When they do marry, they’re more likely to have a divorce than people who were virgins when they got married.”
Across much of the American culture, this big scientific news isn’t known and certainly isn’t much communicated to youth, who these days live in a sexual Wild West.
Teen evangelist Jeffrey Dean administers Web sites viewed by more than 350,000 young people every year. Thousands of them tell him they’re pressured to be sexual and are often wounded by it.
“Anything goes is the new rule, and in the process, kids are experimenting,” Dean told CBN News. “But they’re finding out there is great hurt and baggage along with that.”
Dean said he hears all the time from kids who’ve started having sex way too young about the effect these bonding chemicals in the brain have. They often write to him and tell him of the problems they are having.
“Well, this relationship didn’t work, but I’m so emotionally attached to what happened there,” Dean explains about the notes he receives. “I’m looking for that again, even if that means making choices I don’t want to make or that I know are against God’s will for my life.”
The article goes on to say that sexually active teens are up to 7 times more likely to kill themselves. The sexual promiscuity among our youth has also caused their rate of STD infection to jump from 1 in 50 in the 1960s to 1 in 4 today.
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